At our wedding, Kristy's cousin Dave Hardy videotaped some wonderful and some funny advice from our family and friends:

“I think when I first started out, I thought more in terms of sharing: I do my 50 and she does her 50. Then I realized that maybe that’s not the way it ought to be. You ought to do 100% or even 150% if needed. Love and service. Service to each other, and service to the world.”

   ~ Kristy’s Uncle Jack (married 40 years)

   ~ Aunt Pat, Uncle Jack’s wife (married 40 years)

   ~ Kristy’s dad, Tom (married 33 years)

“I didn’t have my ‘talk’ with Kristy before the wedding the way they did in the past, but maybe that wasn’t necessary. Compromise - you must always compromise. Talk everything out. Never say a deliberate cruel thing. Never, ever blame each other. Don’t lose your temper. Don’t go to bed angry.”

   ~ Joyce, Mother of the Bride (married 33 years)

   ~ Diane, Joyce and Tom’s Executive Assistant (married)

“Pay attention to each other. Look after each other. Love each other. That’s all.”

   ~ Kristy's Aunt Phyllis, Tom's sister 

“Kiss each other all the time. Even when you’re mad at each other, you’ve got to have a lot of kissing. And - she’s always right, she is always right. Keep that in mind.”

   ~ Kristy’s cousin Debby

“Respect. And friendship. And the other one: The Wild Side... sometimes you have to go for it. No matter how wild it gets, you have to love them for who they are.”

   ~ Cousin Janet

“Eat plenty of home cooked meals. Even if you can’t cook - it’s a bonding experience.”

   ~ Hunter, Janet’s husband

“Keep it fun and remember to flirt! Make dates. He should look up things to do and ask you out on a date, and you say, ‘OK!’ It doesn’t matter where, or what - if he wants to go to an auction, say ‘YES!’ I always have fun, no matter where it is.”

   ~ Cousin Becky

“We’ve heard all this stuff. Here’s what I have to say: If you ever buy a house, and you ever have a dog: don’t walk your dog to some else's yard to take a dump.”

   ~ Becky’s husband - and Videographer, Dave

“Be cool - When she asks, How does my hair look? and her hair doesn’t look so good, say . . . Your hair looks pretty good! And if her hair looks pretty good, say, Your hair looks great.  Also, when you get married - she‘s boss.”

   ~ Sean (Kristy’s 12 year old cousin).

      After Sean said that, you cousin Dave's voice in the background:

     “You learned that from your mother, didn’t you?”

“Be thoughtful of each other.”

   ~ Hertha, the family Grandmother

“Lots of massages.”

   ~ Anjana, one of Kristy's lifelong friends and a Bride’s Maid

“Live Long and Prosper”

   ~ Sophia, another longtime friend of Kristy's and a Bride’s Maid

“Remember: politically correct is a maximum of two kids.”

   ~ John, Scott’s dad

"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23)” and

“Follow your dreams, wherever they take you . . .”

   ~ Elisabeth, Scott‘s mother

”I think the main thing that has kept most marriages together is to remember to spend as much time on the bottom as you do on the top.”

   ~ George, Scott’s brother-in-law...  To which Scott's sister 

      Sidne, George's wife, laughed and chimed in: “That’s a good idea!”

 so you’ll know them by their limp"
~ Scott’s Brother, and Best Man (after an old Irish Blessing)

   ~ Scott’s sister-in-law, Colette

“Keep dating throughout your married years. Each week, set aside a time for a date. Honor God in the small things, and the big things will take care of themselves.”

   ~ Scott’s cousin, Walter

“Be true to each other. Try to make each other happy. Be funny; without humour, life doesn’t mean a whole lot. And don’t forget, and most important (especially for these two): You gotta dance! You gotta DANCE!”

   ~ Scott’s friend Sassan

We would love to receive marriage advice from anyone who would care to share - thank you!:

~Scott & Kristy Nilsson