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Kristy Leigh Dawson

&

Scott Barricks Nilsson

Wedding Ceremony

August 25, 2001

 

 

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

Greeting

 

 

We are here to unite

Kristy Leigh Dawson and Scott Barricks Nilsson

in marriage.

 

This marriage is a celebration of the miracle of Scott and Kristy’s love.

 

When we love,

we see things in those we love that others do not see.

We see beneath the surface,

to those qualities which make our beloved special and unique.

 

To see with loving eyes,

is to know another’s inner beauty.

And to be loved is to be seen, and known,

as we are known to no other.

 

One who loves us, bestows a unique gift:

a place, a home, shared alone together, inside ourselves,

where our soul feels safe and understood,

where we feel free to be ourselves without judgment or condition,

a place that only they could give us.

 

William Shakespeare wrote in Sonnet 116:

“Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or Bends with the remover to remove.
O, no! It is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is never shaken.
It is the star to every wandering bark,
whose worth’s unknown, although its height be taken.”

 

The art of married life is an inner journey.

A mutual enrichment.

A give and take between husband and wife,

a mingling of two

which diminishes neither,

but enhances both.

 

In marriage we say not only "I love you,"

but, "I promise to love you - always."

In promising “always”, we make the commitment of time.

That our love is not only for today or tomorrow -

but for the rest of our lives.

 

With that commitment, that gift, to our loved one

we create the security that our love, our faithfulness

and our friendship are never conditional and never ending.

That they will endure beyond our instincts and inclinations,

beyond the challenges of life.

That there will be time to learn to love

even beyond the love we now know.

 

We change because of these promises.

We shape ourselves according to them,

we love in their midst and live differently

because of them.

 

Because we know we are loved,

we can step beyond our fears;

because we have been chosen,

we can rise above our insecurities.

 

Marriage makes us free,

our souls are protected,

our hearts have come home.

This is the reason we are here:

To celebrate the union of two people whose hearts have come home.

We will now have a reading from The Prophet:

 

 

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Father of the Groom - John Barricks

Reading

 

“The Prophet” - Kahlil Gibran

        excerpts, Love and Marriage

 

When love beckons to you, follow it,
although its ways are hard and steep.
And when its wings enfold you, yield to it,
though the sword hidden among its pinions

may wound you.
 

And when it speaks to you, believe in it,
though its voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall it crucify you.
Even as it is for your growth, so is it for your pruning.
Even as it ascends to your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
so shall it descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

All these things shall love do unto you
that you may know the secrets of your heart,
and in that knowledge
become a fragment of life's heart.

Love gives naught but itself
and takes nothing but from itself.
Love possesses not, nor would it be possessed
for love is sufficient unto love.

 

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea

between the shores of your souls.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,

but let each one of you be distinct,
Even as the strings of a lute are distinct

though they quiver with the same music.

When you love you should not say,
"God is in my heart," but rather,
"I am in the heart of God."
And think not that you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires,
let these be your desires:
to melt and be like a running brook

that sings its melody into the night.
 

To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
and to bleed willingly and joyfully.
 

To wake at dawn with a winged heart

and give thanks for another day of loving;
to rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
to return home at eventide with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

 

We will now have a reading from Corinthians:

 

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Aunt of the Bride - Patricia Dawson

Readings

 

First Epistle of Paul to the Corinthians

New Testament, I Corinthians 13: 1-8; 1:13

 

If I speak with tongues of men and angels, and have not love,

I am become as sounding brass, or clanging cymbal.

 

And if I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries,

and all knowledge - and if I have faith, so that I could move mountains,

and have not love, I am nothing.

 

And if I give all my goods to feed the poor, and my body to be burned,

and have not love, it profits me nothing.

 

Love is to be preferred before all gifts.

Love is patient, is kind:

love envies not, deals not perversely, is not arrogant.

 

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things.

 

Love never fails.

 

And now abides faith, hope and love, these three;

but the greatest of these is love.

 

 

Poem - Mary Baker Eddy

Brood o'er us with Thy shelt'ring wing,

'Neath which our spirits blend

Like brother birds, that soar and sing,

And on the same branch bend.

The arrow that doth wound the dove

Darts not from those who watch and love.

 

If thou the bending reed wouldst break

By thought or word unkind,

Pray that his spirit you partake,

Who loved and healed ourkind:

Seek holy thoughts and heavenly strain,

That make us one in love remain.

 

Learn, too, that wisdom's rod is given

For faith to kiss, and know;

That greetings glorious from high heaven,

Whence joys supernal flow,

Come from that Love, divinely near,

Which chastens pride and earth-born fear,

Through God, who gave that word of might

Which swelled creation's lay:

"Let there be light, and there was light."

What chased the clouds away?

 

'Twas Love whose finger traced aloud

A bow of promise on the cloud.

Thou to whose power our hope we give,

Free us from human strife.

Fed by Thy love divine we live,

For Love alone is Life;

And life most sweet, as heart to heart

Speaks kindly when we meet and part.

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

Prayer

 

 

Let us PRAY:

In happiness and joy

we are thankful for God’s blessing of this love we celebrate together.

May Scott and Kristy always rejoice in their love,

graced by delight for their mutual affection.

Fulfill every worthy wish of their hearts.

Open their eyes to the beauty and mystery

of the love they hold for each other.

May they together embrace and nurture the promise of this moment

so that all who know them will call them truly blessed. Amen

 

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Discourse on Marriage

 

 

Marriage is not a destination,

but a journey.

Marriage takes more than love.

It takes renewal of those qualities that created that love.

 

It takes resolution in the onslaught of life’s challenges.

It takes trust, to know in your hearts

that you want only the best for each other.

 

It takes commitment to stay open to one another,

to learn and grow,

even when it is difficult to do so.

 

It takes faith, to go forward together without knowing

what the future holds.

 

While love is a natural state of being,

the qualities that support a successful marriage

are acts of devotion.

Only this will ensure that love endures.

 

What greater thing is there for two human souls

than to feel that they are joined together for life,

to strengthen each other in all labor,

to rest on each other in all sorrow,

to minister to each other in all pain,

to be one with each other

through tenderness and quietude,

through joy and exultation,
and in silent, unspeakable memories

that only they will share.

 

The poet Meryl Fishman has said,

"You know me as I really am, and I know you truly.

Not even as we know ourselves and would present ourselves.

But to the very core of our beings.

And we see the good and bad,

Accepting it all with joy,

And from this time on our souls are locked in harmony.

I have become you, you have become me,

And we call each other love."

 

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Appeal to the Guests

 

 

Scott and Kristy asked their family and friends

to join them here today

to celebrate their wedding vows and marriage.

 

A wedding is a celebration,

a time of love and great rejoicing -

but it is far more than a social occasion.

A wedding is a sacred ceremony

joining the hearts and souls and lives of two people.

 

Marriages, while joyful,

will sustain times of challenge and difficulty.

Strong marriages endure.

 

Part of what builds a strong marriage,

is the ongoing love, nurture and support

of those closest to that couple:

the family and friends.

 

You were invited to share in Scott and Kristy’s wedding.

Your invited presence and your choice to be here today

convey a special responsibility to this couple.

 

As with all marriages,

their days of delight and good fortune

will be rigorously tested with hardship.

 

When the days of this marriage are the most trying,

your love, understanding and support,

will be needed most -

not only for them, but for their marriage.

 

The responsibility you have to Scott and Kristy,

and to all wedded couples who trust you to provide good council,

is to uphold their marriage.

 

Therefore, as Scott and Kristy give their vows,

all you who have joined them here today,

and any others who love and care about them:

look inside yourselves

to find how you might honor your inclusion in their wedding ceremony,

with your own commitment to them as a couple and a marriage,

and, by extension - how you might honor the friendships and marriages

of all those you know and care about.

 

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The Declaration of Vows

 

 

No ties are more tender; no vows more sacred

than these you now assume.

The vows you are about to speak represent a much deeper commitment.

 

No moment in your lives is more profound or significant than this one.

Through the years ahead,

may you celebrate the love and respect you have for each other.

 

May you honor each other,

and share equally in the triumphs and trials of the days to come.

 

May your hearts and words be true.

 

May you share with each other, from this day on,

the rediscovery of your passion and commitment for each other,

and the endless joy of falling in love with each other

again.

 

And, may you always remember the promises you are about to give one another, in this moment of tender and solemn joy.

 

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Groom’s Vows - Scott Barricks Nilsson

 

 

Kristy Leigh,

I , Scott Barricks Nilsson,

offer myself to be your husband -

and these things I promise you:

From this day forward I join my life with yours.

I vow to always be there for you.

I promise to take you as my only love, and will give myself to no other.

I promise to always stand by your side, and support your dreams as my own;

to be your champion, and to love and cherish every part of you -

not only those parts that are easiest for me to love.

To respect and support your needs and independence,

and to listen to your heart as well as your words.

To remember always how much you love me,

and to never leave in anger or frustration -

but to remain upon the path that leads our hearts to love and trust and understanding.

I will celebrate your joys and comfort you in sorrow.
Whatever you face, we face together:

come success and failure,

come prosperity, come days of need -

I give you all I am and all I will become.
from this moment forth and for eternity.

 

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Bride's Vows - Kristy Leigh Dawson

 

 

Scott,

I, Kristy Leigh Dawson

offer myself to be your wife -

and these things I promise you:

From this day forward I join my life with yours.

I promise to take you as my only love, and will give myself to no other.

I vow to always stay close to you.

To love every part of you -

and always express that love.

I promise to stand by your side, and to fight for your dreams as my own;

To respect and support your needs,

and to listen to your heart as well as your words.

I promise to never leave in anger or frustration -

and to always speak with the love I feel for you.

I will celebrate your joys and comfort you in sorrow.
Come success or failure,

Come prosperity or days of need -

I give you all I am and all I will become.
from this moment forth and always.

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

The Blessing of the Rings

 

 

The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond which unites two loyal hearts in eternal love. It is a seal of the vows Scott and Kristy will make to one another.

As Shakespeare says in Romeo & Juliet:

“My bounty is as deep boundless as the sea.

My love as deep;
The more I give to thee, the more I have,

for both are infinite.”

 

Prayer

 

Let us PRAY:

Bless these rings, O Lord,

that Scott and Kristy, who give them, and who wear them,

may abide in thy peace forever.

May your richest blessings rain eternal

upon their lifelong celebration of marriage.

May the love that these two share with each other

forever be a pattern for others to follow.

May they embrace this moment

and find peace in knowing that grace and forgiveness

will walk with them in the journey of life.

Direct each step they take

and may they find with the dawning of each new day

an even greater love and appreciation for each other -

living together in unity, love and happiness for the rest of their lives. Amen

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

with Bride & Groom

Exchange of Rings - Ring Vows

 

 

Rev. Ramey with Groom - Scott Nilsson

Kristy Leigh, with all my love,

I take you to be my beloved wife,

my dearest friend, my most treasured companion,

to love you, hold you and honor you,

to be patient and kind,

to console and protect you,

to mirror your highest values,

to live with you and laugh with you,

to be faithful and give thanks for you always.

This I promise you from my heart and with my soul,

for all the days of my life.

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love.

 

Rev. Ramey with Bride - Kristy Dawson

Scott, with all my love,

I take you to be my beloved husband,

my dearest friend, my most treasured companion,

to love you, hold you and honor you,

to be patient and kind,

to console and protect you,

to mirror your highest values,

to live with you and laugh with you,

to be faithful and give thanks for you always.

This I promise you from my heart and with my soul,

for all the days of my life.

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love.

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

Prayer

 

 

Dear God -

Please walk with Scott and Kristy

through their days as husband and wife, forever.

Fill their marriage with peace and harmony.

Grant them the eternal renewal of grace, faith and trust.

Let Scott and Kristy devote themselves to the good of one another.

 

May patience and kindness guide their words and actions.

Let their rightness support their hearts and eyes,

that loyalty and faithfulness may sanctify their love and marriage.

 

Let their hope and cheerfulness light their lifelong path together.

And may they be forever strengthened by their love for one another. Amen

 

Apache Blessing

 

Now you will feel no rain

For each of you will be shelter to the other

Now you will feel no cold

For each of you will be warmth to the other

Now there is no loneliness for you

For each of you will be companion to the other

Now you are two bodies

But there is only one life before you

Go now to your dwelling place

To enter the days of your togetherness

And may your days be good

and long upon the earth.

 

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Celebrant - Rev. Ron Ramey

Declaration of Marriage

 

 

Scott and Kristy:

In as much as you have each pledged to the other

your lifelong commitment, love and devotion,

I now pronounce you husband and wife -

and may the winds of heaven

dance between you forever.


Scott Nilsson, you may kiss your bride!

(kiss)

And now, ladies and gentlemen -

 

I give you Mr. and Mrs. Scott Maxwell Barricks and Kristy Leigh Nilsson

 

 

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